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Struggling After Infidelity? We can help

If you’ve recently discovered that your partner has been having an affair, you will know just how hard it is to cope. It’s not only the pain of betrayal you’re left to process, but also the loss of trust – in your partner and in your relationship.

Learning that someone you believed was faithful has been unfaithful can feel overwhelming. People often report feeling shocked, confused, hurt, and angry. unable to fully take in or accept what has happened. Unsurprisingly, those who have been cheated on may struggle with even the simplest decisions, whether about the relationship or everyday life.

Understanding why an affair happened

Affairs rarely have just one cause, and they don’t always happen because someone is unhappy or dissatisfied in the relationship. But to heal and move forward, it’s vital that you both understand the deeper reasons why it happened.

Infidelity often occurs in relationships where underlying issues have gone unspoken or unresolved – though that’s not always the case. For the person who feels betrayed, this can be incredibly hard to hear or accept.

Many couples come to therapy after discovering an affair. Some people find it almost impossible to move on, and without help, the pain and mistrust can linger for years, slowly eroding the relationship.

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How infidelity counselling can help

Our couples counsellors will help you explore what was happening in the relationship leading up to the affair. It’s vital that you both gain a clear understanding of why it happened. This part of the process can be painful, but it’s often the first step towards making lasting, positive change.

Relationship counselling can also help the person who strayed understand what they were seeking elsewhere – and why. If you’re unsure what counts as cheating, click here: What counts as cheating?

Only you can decide what to do after an affair – and whatever you choose, it won’t be easy. Affairs often cause deep emotional wounds, but they can also open the door to reflection, growth, and honest conversation.

Infidelity can have a ripple effect on your wider family, including children and close friends. Even so, an affair doesn’t always have to mean the end. With honesty, commitment, and support, many couples find a way through – and some even build a stronger relationship than before.

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