Has Your Relationship Lost It's Spark? We can help

It’s very common for relationships to go through phases where one or both partners lose interest in sex.

But when a relationship lacks passion or intimacy for a long time, it can start to cause emotional distance and frustration. Perhaps the closeness between you has faded. Maybe your partner pulls away or no longer wants to cuddle – let alone be sexually intimate. You might feel confused, hurt, or rejected because of it.

Or perhaps you’re the one who doesn’t want to be intimate anymore. It might be that you don’t feel loved, respected, or emotionally connected – so physical closeness feels out of reach.

It’s important to remember that intimacy isn’t just about sex. It’s about the emotional and physical closeness that makes a romantic relationship feel special and connected – something deeper than what we share with anyone else.

Why does intimacy decline?

It’s completely normal for sexual interest to ebb and flow over time. It’s also common for partners to have different sex drives at different stages in their relationship

You may have reached a point where you still love your partner, but life together has become predictable, stale, or even a little boring. As a result, intimacy may have faded – or disappeared altogether. This can leave one or both of you feeling rejected, hurt, or emotionally disconnected. And when it’s left unspoken for too long, it can become an awkward or difficult topic to bring up

The passion you once felt may have gone, and over time, feelings of resentment or distance can begin to build

This usually happens gradually, as over-familiarity or complacency sets in. Sometimes the shift begins after having children, when priorities change. It can also stem from poor communication, frequent arguments, or a loss of physical attraction. In some cases, it may be caused by emotional needs going unmet, selfish behaviour, or a growing sense of not feeling valued or appreciated by your partner

 

Intimacy Problems

How Couple Therapy Can Help

Our relationship therapists will help you both talk openly about how you’re feeling. We’ll encourage honesty, especially if you’re the one who feels less interested in intimacy. Being clear with your partner about what’s going on can ease hurt and confusion – and help them better understand your perspective.

If you feel your partner is contributing to the issue, being honest gives them a chance to understand how you feel and, if they can, make changes.

If you’d like to speak to one of our experienced relationship therapists about problems with intimacy, we’re here to help.
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