Grief doesn’t follow a set pattern, but many people experience some or all of the following emotional stages:
Shock – It can take time to fully grasp what’s happened. You may feel numb or carry on as if nothing has changed. It’s often hard to believe someone important is really gone.
Overwhelming sadness – The pain of bereavement can feel intense and frightening. It may come in waves or feel ever-present, making even simple tasks feel difficult.
Anger or a sense of injustice – Feeling angry is completely natural. You might feel it’s unfair, especially if the loss was sudden or untimely. Sometimes that anger is directed at yourself, others, or even the person who has died.
Guilt – Many people experience guilt after a loss. You might feel you didn’t do or say enough, or that the relationship was unresolved. These thoughts are painful but common.
Fear for the future – You may worry about how to cope, or feel anxious about life without your loved one.
Relief – If the person was unwell or the relationship was difficult, you may feel some relief. This can be confusing, but it’s also a valid part of the grieving process.
