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Struggling Following A Break Up? We can help

When a relationship ends, it can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether it was your decision or your partner’s, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Counselling for relationship breakups can help you process what’s happened so you begin with small steps to move forward.

Even if you were the one to end things, you may still feel anxious, unsure, or lonely. The emotional fallout – along with all the practical decisions – can feel daunting.

If the breakup wasn’t your choice, you might feel shocked, hurt, or powerless. You may want to understand what went wrong, or how to avoid repeating the same patterns.

Whatever you’re feeling right now, you’re not alone. Our experienced counsellors are here to support you through this difficult time. Book a session today.

Endless Thoughts & Questions

One of the hardest parts of moving on after a relationship ends is letting go of anger and blame. You might find yourself stuck in a loop, endlessly replaying what happened and struggling to move forward.

Many people get caught in thoughts like:
Who was really at fault?
What could I have done differently?
Why did things end the way they did?
Did they care as much as I did?

These questions are completely natural, but they often lead to painful emotions that keep you stuck – like feeling bitter, resentful or regretful, going round in circles without real clarity, or holding onto pain that prevents healing.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting the past or pretending it didn’t matter. It means finding a way to release what’s weighing you down, so you can focus on yourself and begin to heal.

Working with a therapist can help you make sense of the past and gently start to move forward – with more peace, and less pain.

Relationship Breakups

Letting Go & Moving Forward

Counselling after a breakup can help you:

Make sense of what happened and why the relationship ended

Understand your emotions and feel less overwhelmed by them

Let go of anger, blame, or regret that may be keeping you stuck

Spot unhelpful patterns that might have shown up in past relationships

Set healthy boundaries and rebuild your self-esteem

Work through feelings of rejection, grief, or loneliness

Get clarity about what you want from future relationships

Start feeling more like yourself again – stronger, and more in control

How can individual therapy help

Individual therapy gives you space to talk through how you’re feeling and begin to understand what led to the breakdown of the relationship.

Although it’s not always easy, your therapist will help you reflect on what the relationship may have been lacking and how it may not have met your needs – or your partner’s. It’s not about deciding who was right or wrong, but about understanding what really happened and why.

We’ll also gently explore any warning signs that may have been overlooked, and talk through what may have caused tension or conflict – not just who caused it. Most importantly, we’ll help you reflect honestly on your role, if any, so you can learn, grow, and move forward with more clarity and confidence.

Although some of the answers may feel upsetting, exploring them can help you let go of the past and avoid repeating the same patterns in future relationships.

We can’t change what’s happened, but we can help you come to terms with it. Through therapy, you’ll start to put the relationship in perspective – and when you’re ready, begin to move forward with greater clarity and strength.

If you’d like to talk things through with a therapist, we’re here to help.

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