In our experience at Relationship Counselling Kent, many couples start having problems because their relationship has become stale. This is especially common for couples who’ve been together for many years, and one of the most frequent reasons people seek couple therapy.
Often, one or both partners have become disillusioned, complacent, or withdrawn, unsure how to reconnect. Even though they live under the same roof, many couples describe feeling like they are living separate lives. It’s rarely due to a major issue, but rather the slow loss of connection over time.
Many couples say they still love each other, often because of the history they share. But love doesn’t always come with mutual respect or fondness. In fact, traits that once, might have felt endearing, can gradually become frustrating, leading to tension, resentment, and emotional distance.
Relationship counselling helps both of you explore when things started to change and why – from each person’s perspective. It also looks at how you each perceive one another’s communication style, and the meaning you attach to what’s said (or left unsaid). Having a neutral third party involved often brings new insight and understanding, helping you move forward in a more positive and constructive way.
It’s not about blame. It’s about understanding each other’s feelings and point of view. In most cases, both partners have unintentionally contributed to the relationship growing stale over time.
If you’d like professional support to help you reconnect and resolve your marriage problems, get in touch with Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment
