Couples can have very different views when it comes to pornography. Some use it together to enhance their sexual relationship and see it as a positive part of their intimacy. Others prefer to avoid it entirely, feeling it has no place in a committed relationship.
Then there’s a third group – where one partner is comfortable with it, and the other is not. This mismatch in values or expectations can cause tension, misunderstandings, or even feelings of betrayal, especially if the use of pornography is kept secret.
Like any other issue in a relationship, what matters most is how it’s talked about. Whether it’s causing arguments, emotional distance, or simply feels like an awkward topic to raise, working through it together with a therapist can help you better understand each other’s views and find a way forward.
